Avoid Long Distance Relationship!!!

A survey revealed that about 60% of the relationship tend to break only because of the lack of physical presence and time. Many also think and believe the old adage “distance make the heart grow fonder”, but since technology makes much of the things a bit easier to reach your beloved today with emails, texting, phone calls later things can get a bit tricky. From the dreaming of long drives comes the long fights on phone, lonely stretches in between dries out the initial guise embracing each other. Initially it works well but as time goes the feeling of love turns into complaining, fighting, frustration etc. One should need to pamper and support in his/her daily life in high or low time on which long-distance relationship fails due to time zone differences, individual daily routine, priorities etc.

Because time always serves as healing stuff and it teaches you to live without your partner. As you are away from your partner its natural you tend away from him/her and may cause your priority shift. Yes if there is enough understanding between partners they can come across long distance relationship, but understanding should be from both sides. Just hoping that God will make something good for us will eventually surface broken hearts. What is more important is we should understand what complications can arise due to both partners not being able to share space, enjoy the personal touch and the feeling of being there. As these complications on the course of relationship tend to get stronger leading to insecurities, frustration and eventually break-up. A gradual decrease in the intimacy between the couples is having a long distance relationship is seen which is due to either not being able to communicate properly or not being able to satisfy personal needs. Satisfaction in terms of emotional and physical fails miserably in a long distance relationships. One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama, this happens when partners goof up with their social lives and usually tend to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in an long distance relationship, your lives won't pause. Partners will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and a sense of insecurity prevails. This requires to have a very strong trust on your partner which is usually hard in a long distance relationship. A simple joke can turn out to be a spit fire in a relation and can be a turn off. Everyday relation seems to be very challenging and the attempt to make it stable actually de-stabilizes the whole relation as we become more manipulative. A motive or a lie not to hurt your partner and break the trust in a second and sadly most of the times no one gets a fair chance to explain. Only phone or such media cannot thrive a relation, partners need shoulder at times and that cannot be replaced by a cell phone. Eventually such relation takes a path towards down fall.

There are times when situations go nasty as either of the partner tend to get closer to his/her colleague/team mate/friend due to the tensions or frustrations in the current relationship. Indifferences are bound to happen in every kind of relation, but the probability of things turning out into a very different level is much more in long distance relationship. A mere news of him/her getting close to his/her colleague can cause a turmoil leading to fights and losing mental stability. It is at this point humans tend to compare happiness he/she shares with the other people whom he/she likes. Partners lose their hold on emotions and gradually fall into a relationship with a different person where he/she finds more care and comfort all leading to an individual with a heartache. This it is very important to set your expectations before getting into long distance relationships and save yourself from the heartaches and misunderstandings. People in a normal short-distance relationships usually do not spend much time talking, rather they indulge in sharing activities and be as close to each other.

So all in all, avoid long distance relationships and live a healthy life. If one has a very strong heart and don’t mind complications can very well experience all sorts of relationships.


© Vinay Vernekar